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Are Sporting Weekends Away a Waste of Time?

Ok, this blog post is only for the mom’s out there who travel away for their kids sports.

Does it sometimes feel that a weekend away is more work than it is worth?  Is the long road ahead never ending with years and years of rubbing the highway?

You spend at least 2 days preparing to leave. Laundry, packing, meal prepping, cleaning and organizing are just those things at the top of the list.  Don’t forget that we still have to work, take kids to sporting events and school (lunches included) in those 2 days of preparing.  We are sometimes exhausted before we even leave the drive way.

Then, after the weekend away we have to come home to groceries, more laundry, work, sporting events, and school (lunches again, arghh).

It makes a mom think if the weekend away is even worth it.

This was the thought going through my mind last night after I got home from a weekend away with my daughter for her soccer tournament.  I laid in bed; my husband sleeping soundly beside me, thinking about all the things that I have to do this week and all the things I need to catch up on since being away.  (The wifi was horrible in the mountains!)

I found myself getting quite overwhelmed.

Then in a moment I changed my perspective on the situation.

Of course it was worth the weekend away.  The fun we had, the memories we made and the connection we strengthened is worth every moment of craziness before and after the trip.  It was just my daughter and I making memories.

My daughter does not see the work that goes into a weekend away.  She does not see how tired I am after driving in the mountains for 3 days while she slept in the passenger seat.  She does see the piles of laundry, the grocery list or the To Do list getting longer and longer.

The reality is she does not have to see anything.  She just has to feel.

She feels the memories.  She feels the connection.  She feels the LOVE.

The practice of holistic wellness; especially with our children, is not about never feeling overwhelmed or negative.  It is a lifestyle of acknowledging these moments and changing the perspective in which you look at them.

Consider yourself blessed that you have the ability to step out of your routine and escape reality for brief moments.  Know that the memories you make will forever change your life.  Consider yourself blessed that you have a home to come back to, a fridge to fill and clothes to wear.

Most of all consider yourself blessed that you have the moments with your children that are not only shaping their future, your future but shaping the future and the relationship you have together.

The sporting weekends away are just the vehicles to have these moments.  Otherwise when else would you spend 3+ hours in the car having your own rock concert, sleeping in a hotel bed watching movies late at night or sliding down water slides till your legs are sore from climbing the stairs.  Cherish these moments.

Even though the road may seem long remember to cheer loud, laugh lots and sleep when you can because one day it will only be memories.

Real Life. Real You.

Amy Bowers  xo 

 

 

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5 Common Symptoms of a Full Body Cleanse.

Most people have thought once or twice about completing a full body detox cleanse, but never commit fully because of the fear wrapped around the whole cleanse process.

I like to think of cleansing and detoxifying your body like spring cleaning your home.  You end up with a huge mess in the midst of it all, feel like it is never going to be done and wonder why you started in the first place.  Then it all comes together and you are left with this beautiful space; free of dust, build-up and junk.  The same thing happens when you cleanse and detoxify your body.  The toxins are the dust, build-up and junk taking up space in your body.

“A toxin is a poisonous substance that is a specific product of the metabolic activities of a living organism and is usually very unstable, notably toxic when introduced into the tissues, and typically capable of inducing antibody formation.”  ~Merriam-Webster~

Our bodies are exposed to toxins every minute of ever day both internally from a cellular level and from our environment.  Our bodies have an amazing self defending and self repairing system in place, therefore; are in a constant state of detox.  Just like the rest of life though our bodies have a limit and when they become overwhelmed with toxins the process slows down and may not work as efficiently as it should.

This is when we begin to feel the effects of the toxins building up in our body; insomnia, headaches, fatigue, weight gain, bad breath, achy muscles, skin reactions, and/or candida overgrowth.

During a cleanse the body has an opportunity to purge the material that does not belong inside of us by increasing the amount of stored toxins, pathogens & metabolic wastes that leave our cells.  Our bodies are equipped with organs that work independently as well as synergistically to eliminate these toxins from our bodies.

These organs are liver, colon, kidneys, lymphatics, blood, skin, & lungs and this is why when we are cleansing we could potentially feel a variety of symptoms throughout the whole body.

5 common symptoms that come with detoxifying your body:

  1. Fatigue.  Our body is an energy producing machine on a normal day, burning calories on a cellular level when we are standing still.  When we cleanse the extra energy that is needed to rid our bodies of the “junk” causes our to feel more fatigued.
  2. GI Upset.  This comes in many different forms; loose stools, nausea, gas, and/or bloating.  This is a common symptom and probably the one people fear the most.  This symptom occurs because our body rids the toxins through the intestines which ultimately leads to our stools.
  3. Headaches.  When detoxifying our body the cells release the toxins back into the bloodstream for them to be eliminated from the body; which leads to systemic symptoms like headaches.
  4. Skin Breakouts.  Our toxins can be eliminated from the body in numerous ways and the skin just happens to be one of of the outlets for this to take place. People may suffer from rashes or acne during a cleanse; which is caused by the toxins leaving the body through the largest organ…the skin.
  5. Irritability.  We may not notice this symptom as much as the people around us may notice it, but we need to be aware of it so we can be proactive in controlling it.  Our body is working overtime during a cleanse and due to the extra amount of toxins floating around in our blood stream for elimination we may feel the effects on our mood.

Although these symptoms seem daunting and no one really wants to suffer with them, the outcomes of the process is worth it.   You will feel re-energized, lighter and refreshed.

Give your body the spring cleaning it deserves.

Real Life. Real You.

Amy Bowers  xo 

 

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3 Ways To Be a Perfect Mom.

Today is Mother’s Day and I have been thinking about this day for the past week.  Mostly because my wonderful family has been asking me all week what I wanted to do today.  I keep telling them massages, cleaning toilets and yard work all done by them, but their little half hearted smile and giggle makes me believe they think I am joking.  The reality is I want Mother’s Day to be what it will be; no expectations and no pressures.

As a recovering perfectionist I have thought a lot over the years of what a “perfect” mom should look like.  I have compiled many lists in my head of what I am doing wrong and how I could be better.  Striving to be “Super Mom” was at the top of my To Do list and it was exhausting.

It wasn’t until I started focusing on holistic wellness that I came up with this list of 3 ways to be the “perfect” mom.

  1. You show up everyday without fail.  Now this does not mean you show up dressed, hair done, makeup on after a 6am workout, with pancakes for breakfast along with fresh squeezed orange juice.  This means you wake up each morning and put one foot in front of the other.  Every day is going to be different and that is okay.  What matters is you show up every day and be the best version of you.  Some days you will feel like a rock star and other days you will feel like a rock star who has partied way too hard on tour; completed exhausted and overwhelmed.  Our children will not remember the day that you spent laying on the couch, drinking coffee and reading a book while they binged watched movies on Netflix.  They will remember you as their mom, as a whole person.  They will remember you being present, smiling (even through the pain), the hugs and kisses and the moments you spent together.
  2. You are emotionally strong.  Yes, thats right I said Emotionally Strong!!  The fact of the matter is that emotionally strong means you are vulnerable enough to show your kids all the emotions in the world.  Every child should see their mom laugh until they cry, get upset when she is angry, cry when she is sad, admit when she is frustrated and lose her patience; aka lose her shit!  The reality is the world is not one emotion.  Your children need to see their mom beyond happy, break down when they have reached their limit and cry when they are sad because this will allow our children to see that is is okay to be vulnerable.  See that there are going to be moments in their lives that seem perfect and moments where perfection seems so far away.  They need to know that no matter what moment they are in they need to feel those emotions, embrace them and know that everything is going to be okay.  They need to be witness to their mother being human, falling down and getting back up and they also need to see their Mom rising to the top with all the dignity and strength that she has.
  3. You give your all to your children.  Every mother should give her all to her children, but this means something completely different when you begin to live a holistic lifestyle.  Many believe that you should be there for your children every second of every day, never missing a moment.  That you should give up your former self, become selfless and nurturing at all times; yet it is these precise thoughts that lead to postpartum depression, resentment and heart ache.  Mothers need to give their all to their children, but this means they need to find happiness outside of their children, they need friends, hobbies, and passions.  They need moments of self reflection, mini vacations, date nights; whatever makes them feel complete.  In order to give your all to your children you yourself must feel whole.  Feeling whole will give you more energy, happiness and a greater ability to be all in when you spend time with your children.

Although being a mother will always be the most important role you will ever fill, it will take up the biggest space in your heart and you take pride in being a mom; being a perfect mom is unattainable.  There is no such thing.  We all will have moments of greatness, moments of weakness, and moments you wish you could take back…but remember always that these moments are all the things that make you an amazing mom.

Happy Mother’s Day!

Real Life. Real You.

Amy Bowers  xo 

 

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Spring Is Here To Stay.

I believe that where you live determines your feelings on Springtime.  Those people (like me) who live in a cold and snowy winter climate welcome Spring with open arms because we can finally spend time outdoors without freezing our fingers, toes and noses.

“The air hurts my face.  Why am I living where the air hurts my face?”

Growing up in northern Alberta, Canada it was very typical to see -40 temperatures in winter.  This kept you indoors or bundled up so much that your neighbour would hardly recognize you.  This can cause a lot of mixed emotions and for some can lead to Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD); which is a type of depression related to the changes in season and the lack of sunlight.  SAD typically effects people who have an otherwise healthy mental status.

If you are one that suffers from SAD you will be so happy to know that spring looks like it is here to stay; which means longer daylight and more SUNSHINE!!

This makes me VERY happy and I choose to celebrate it every year because I really don’t appreciate Mother Nature’s winter temperament.

Here are some ways to get out there and celebrate the First Day Of Spring:

  • Buy yourself some flowers for the house.
  • Go for a walk outdoors; long or short it does not matter.
  • Give the inside of your vehicle a clean out.
  • Pull out your summer clothes from storage, give them a wash and have them ready for the upcoming months.
  • Sit on your patio and let the sun shine on your face. (even if it is only for a few minutes)

We get out of life what we put in.  Celebrating the small things allows us to recognize that there is beauty all around us.  We just have to be willing to notice it.

Happy Spring!!

Real Life. Real You.

Amy Bowers  xo